Cristal Jacobo: "Motherhood is Making Me MORE Successful!"-- Balancing Business and New Mom Life

Have you ever wondered what it takes to break free from self-imposed limits and societal expectations?

Cristal Jacobo, the powerhouse behind She Is Made For More shares her story of transformation from a school teacher to an entrepreneur who lights the path for women's empowerment. 

We delve into the heart of ambition, challenging the guilt associated with wanting 'more,' and how embracing your true potential is a profound act of courage.

Motherhood is a journey that redefines identity, reshaping our lives in ways we never imagined.

In this episode, I open up about my own experience, navigating the emotional intricacies of becoming a mom, and the fears and triumphs that come along.
We discuss how motherhood can significantly alter our priorities, leading us to pursue our goals with renewed vigor and purpose.

Our episode together doesn't shy away from the tough conversations, addressing the misconceptions about humility and the embodiment of success, and how we can draw inspiration from those around us to craft a life of gratitude and fulfillment.

Cristal leaves some mic drop quotes and shares that perhaps it's our destiny to elevate our lineage, to be the ones who uplift the dreams of our ancestors.

This conversation is an invitation to listen closely to your soul's whispers, to recognize the ancestral support that guides us, and to acknowledge the lasting impact we can have on future generations.

I am deeply grateful for the wisdom shared by our insightful guests, and my hope is that this dialogue sparks a flame within you to pursue your destiny with gusto, gratitude, and the knowledge that you are made for more.

Cristal Jacobo:
Website: https://www.cristaljacobo.com/
She is Made for More Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/she-is-made-for-more/id1473726063?ign-mpt=uo%3D4
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/cristalijacobo/

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Hello, gorgeous, and welcome to the Women on Top podcast. I'm your host, valerie Lynn, and with over 15 years of business experience, I became truly passionate about finding ways to support and hear from way more women, and what we know to be true is that women thrive when they are in their favorite position on top on top in business, in relationships, in personal growth and on top in being real and authentic to who the hell they are. So I invite you to sit back and enjoy the Women on Top podcast. Yay, oh my gosh, this is going to be so good. I'm just so excited and, honestly, like beyond blessed that this woman agreed to come on the podcast today.

Speaker 1: 0:53

So I have sitting here with me Crystal Jacobo, which I have known, crystal, for a long time. I feel like I've known you my whole life, but I've only known you a couple of years. But Crystal has just really been a beautiful light in my life and she is somebody who helps make things possible for others. And I don't say that lightly, I say that truthfully because I think we all are aiming to make an impact in this world and Crystal is actually walking that walk instead of just talking about it. Crystal is the founder of. She Is Made For More, which is a global movement and now trademark, which is designed to help so many women just create and spread their voices and whatever their version of more is. Crystal also has this amazing community called the Soul Collective. She now has this really expansive and really rich and deep mastermind and I'm just so, so humbled and honored to have you on the show, crystal, welcome.

Speaker 2: 1:55

I'm excited to be here and excited to dive into what I was going to serve your community and talk about life, the realness, all of it.

Speaker 1: 2:02

Yeah, I love it. Oh, my goodness, I just want to actually start with some of the name of your company. So you've had a lot of evolution in your own life. Where was this idea of she Is Made For More? Talk to us about how that all got started and what it means to you personally.

Speaker 2: 2:24

So I used to be a school teacher and I mean I feel like I've lived a hundred lives now, it feels like. But I've had so many jobs, everything. And I was going through this pattern when I was younger, where I would get a job and I would be in there what two months, three months, and then I was like, oh, there's a quote unquote better job, let me apply for that one. Oh, there's a better one, let me apply for that one. And it was in every single department that I worked for Cause I remember once I was doing taxes as a the, the one who would answer the phone and make the appointments. Then I was like, ooh, I wonder, what does it take to be an actual tax professional? So I went through the course, I got certified, passed all my exams, and then, when I was a tax professional, then I was like, what does it take to be a tax professional level two? So I always kind of kept going for more and when I finally became a school teacher, I got my associates, my bachelors, I got everything that I needed and at one point, like there's nowhere else to go unless you go to be a principal, which was an additional degree that you had to get. But I was like, well, I'm finally do not have homework, so I want to chill here for a bit, and I did that for a few years.

Speaker 2: 3:32

But there was this, this feeling in and I don't know how to describe it. Besides, there was this feeling in my gut where I wanted more and I felt so guilty for it. How dare I? I come from a very poor income family, like very low, low income family. We're like borderline close to like the poverty level. So for us, I am the first middle school graduate, first high school graduate, first college graduate from my entire family, first person to ever have a car like a brand new car off the lot, first person to ever have a car like a brand new car off the lot, first person to ever purchase a home first, like you name it, first person, it's me. So now I'm at this job, I'm a teacher, I am the, I was the youngest one in the district at that time and how dare I want more?

Speaker 2: 4:22

Because I have it, I have the house, I have the car, I have the. Because I have it, I have the house, I have the car, I have the career. Like I have summers off, winters off. How dare I want more when I have more than anyone in my family has ever had? So I kind of got stuck there and I didn't want for more. Ironically, what ended up happening? With time? I ended up really getting in my head and going down like paths I probably shouldn't have and I was just slowly losing myself, almost going through this like I don't want to say depressed season, because I was always out about doing things, but I feel like I was living life through, through like not me anymore, just doing whatever everybody else needed to kind of stay busy and and I went through this dark season and it was almost like again because there was shame in me wanting more. Eventually, when I quit teaching and when I left and there's a whole story about that that I could literally take hours explaining- but when I ended up, leaving.

Speaker 2: 5:26

I was telling one of my friends like I was like I feel like there was so much guilt in my heart for wanting more. I was so afraid to say it and I didn't want my parents to think that I took for granted what I had, or God. I'm very big on my religion and I didn't want God to be like homegirl. I gave you everything you've ever wanted and now you're still sitting here. You want more, like ungrateful person, and there was this guilt on it. So when I built Shoes Made For More, I said I want to build this foundation where I want to remind you that you are made for more. And it's not more like a bigger house or more money. It's being the more that you seek to be. Whether you want to be the best mom in the world, because you didn't grow up with a mom, that's your more. Whether you want to become the healthiest version of you, because in your bloodline everybody has cholesterol and high blood pressure problems. Like your more is becoming the nutritionist or the healthy eater, whatever it is Like every single one of us, there is a more that we crave, and it doesn't have to be super big again, like one in a billion dollars, but there is more that we crave, and sometimes in our families, specifically in our families we're guilted for it.

Speaker 2: 6:37

Because how dare you change the culture, how dare you change the things that you want? How dare you change Like I didn't do a bad job parenting which your more isn't about anybody else. More that you want is your more. You have never to explain it to anyone else, but your more calls you for a reason, and when we built she's made for more, specifically for women. We did it because, in my culture again, we it's a very, it's a culture that's very led by men, and you sit there, you cook, you clean, you have kids and that's your role as a woman. So I wanted to do she's Made for More to remind every single woman like your more doesn't have to end when you have kids, or when you get married, or when you get the degree, or when you get the house, whatever more that calls you. There is a reason why it calls you and you are the one chosen in your family to go after that more.

Speaker 1: 7:27

You have such a rich background and, just like in the sense of experiences, you have so many different experiences and even the cultural experiences and things of that nature. So I know we could just dive into all of those little tidbits. But what I want to ask you is you know, when it comes to this feeling I think we can all relate to that, especially as women like this draw of like, oh, I have something else and I can just feel it inside of me Do you still feel that and do you still feel like you're made for more, and do you ever struggle with it?

Speaker 2: 7:53

You know what I run. I want to say yes and no, it's not as big as it used to be. I'm just coming home from a seven day vacation and I used to have such a hard time unplugging and being still and I kid you not, val, like these last seven days, I don't think about work, I don't think, I just think about being present. It's so easy for me to unplug, it's so easy for me to like sit in nothing, which was very, very hard before, and I used to wonder why, and I think the more that I was meant to build or the more that was calling me is exactly what I'm living.

Speaker 1: 8:29

How do you think we know when our more is being led by our ego versus being led by our intuition and our soul?

Speaker 2: 8:38

Every time I want to do something. I am getting much better at this, at sitting down and saying why, why do I want this? And I'll give you a very real example. There's a big thing that I'm working on, a big project that I haven't really announced yet, and I had specific details. I wanted it this day, I wanted this thing, I wanted this.

Speaker 2: 8:57

I ended up sitting with this recently and I was having resistance towards wanting to do it. So you know when you want to do it, so you know when you wanna do something, but you're like postponing it and postponing it and postponing it. That's little like hint that there's something in there that you don't wanna do. Yes, you want the title. Yes, you want the achievement, you want something. But that resistance is a big indication of wait a minute, this isn't fully authentically what I want. It might be like a version of it. This isn't fully authentically what I want. It might be like a version of it, which was exactly what was mine.

Speaker 2: 9:29

I wanted a version of what I was going to create, but I think if I would have created the way I thought I was going to create it, I was going to end up one burning myself out to doing something that wasn't going to fulfill me. So I had to slow down and ask okay, what is it that I want specifically about this thing? And we can look at every single person who inspires us. We can look at our more that calls us and like what is it specifically that we want? And the clearer we can get with that, we can be more in alignment with. Oh, this is really authentically mine and not just my ego, Because our ego is really good about. We want that title, we want that achievement, we want this and we're like women, are very hard workers, Like women will figure it out, we're resourceful, We'll do what we have to do. But just because we can do it doesn't mean we should all be doing it.

Speaker 1: 10:14

Right, Right, I love that just because we can't be doing doesn't mean we should be, and sometimes it doesn't mean it's the right timing, because when you're talking, I'm reflecting on even this podcast, where I had this vision for a while, but there was something that was preventing me from starting it and I now I'm aware that it just wasn't. It wasn't the right timing, I wasn't ready for it, it wasn't aligned in the season where I was at. At that moment I knew it was going to happen. I had all the conviction in my soul this is going to pour out of me, I'm going to do this but it just wasn't. I wasn't ready yet, Um.

Speaker 1: 10:48

So I feel like there's also an element of that like being ready for something, um, that to say, sometimes I feel like we never feel ready before we start and that can also hold us back. So maybe talk a little bit about that and even as it comes to and I know this is kind of like diving in a little bit differently but even as it comes to being a mom, like, did you feel completely ready? Did you feel like you were prepared? Like how was it going into that season of life?

Speaker 2: 11:16

You know what I've learned in life and everything you're never going to be fully ready and I think if you wait till you're ready, you're going to be waiting forever. And even with mom like being a mom, like I've a little bit about my story is we've, we were struggling to get pregnant and seeing those negative tests and negative tests and eventually takes a toll on you. And I remember being so emotional and just crying my eyes out one day and I was like all right, god, I'm done, I'm done trying. I don't think I had no more energy in me to look at another negative test and I remember I cried my eyes out and I was like that's it. I was also taking so much supplements to be able to get pregnant. It was a whole process and I remember crying my eyes out and I was like I'm done, I'm no longer taking the supplements, I'm going to hire a health coach and I'm going to actually start working now, because there was this whole process I was going through and if I meant to be a parent, I meant to be a parent, but it's also not when I want it in your time and I just fully surrendered and the next month I got my positive.

Speaker 2: 12:23

The next month, I got my positive, and I think what I learned in that time, going back, is that, as much as I wanted it, now, now, now, now, like I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready. Even though we prayed for, even though we prepped, even though we like, everything happened. My first trimester of being pregnant, valerie, like I, was an emotional mess. I kept crying and crying, wondering if this is exactly what I wanted. When, keep in mind like I had been praying for this for a few years. So, especially going into motherhood, I realized dang, you're never ready, not even for the miracle that you pray for. Are you ready?

Speaker 1: 13:00

Yeah, wow, I. I just feel that in so many different ways. I'm not a mom, but I really want to talk to you about what this has all been like, because I think there are a lot of women out there who are maybe new moms or thinking about becoming new moms or just have kids in general. And one of my biggest fears and I don't have kids and I still I'm not sure whether that's going to happen or not, and that's totally fine but one of my biggest fears and I don't have kids and I still I'm not sure whether that's going to happen or not, and that's totally fine but one of my biggest fears has always been, if I become a mom, I'm going to lose myself, and so I want to just kind of like what's your take on that and how have you managed to make sure that you don't lose who you are in the identity of becoming a mom, and not that that's a bad thing.

Speaker 1: 13:43

I think there are some women that that's what they're meant to do and that's their whole existence. But here's you pregnant on stage, like here's you pregnant, you know doing. You didn't even know it at the time. I don't think you were pregnant at Galentine's. Here's you like rocking your business and then also having a newborn. So what has that all been like, like? What has that taught you? How can you kind of like speak to the women out there who are worried about the same thing that I am, like losing yourself?

Speaker 2: 14:13

I think if you are a mom and you want mom to be your entire identity, like that's what it's gonna be. I think if you wanna be a mom and you don't wanna lose your identity, that's exactly what's gonna happen for you, because to be a mom and you don't want to lose your identity, that's exactly what's going to happen for you, because I knew, coming into this, I am a mom and I prayed for this and I prayed and I cried tears telling God like, please make me a mom. And when I got here, I knew I had always knew that I didn't want it to be my main identity.

Speaker 1: 14:37

And to this day.

Speaker 2: 14:37

I still don't want it to be my main identity, because I'm more than a mom, but it's just who I am. And I know this because when I had the baby, I wish I would say that there's not an identity that you lose, but there is. And I came in here. I've done so much work. I've invested in coaches. I know who I am. I feel rock solid about giving birth.

Speaker 2: 15:00

Well, the first moment you hear that little cry at the hospital so I don't know, something inside you changes and I've talked to multiple people and they they're all that's their experience. But you know you're going to be a mom, but it doesn't hit you until you hear that first cry that I holy shoot, I'm a mom, like I'm responsible for this little being and coming home. Yeah, there was a level of fear that entered my body about that. I'm always like let's go with the flow. I'm still very much like that, but let's risk it all, it's okay, let's figure it out.

Speaker 2: 15:35

But in that first 40 days I want to say there was a lot of fear of is my child safe? Who's going to hurt him? Who do I need to stay away from? Who do I got to protect him from. It's almost like this mama bear energy that people talk about. Then I was like all right, mama energy, cool. No, it's a real thing. It's like this feeling of I need to protect this human that I love so much, that you don't even know, but you just love him so much. And as you're experiencing these 40 days of his first little smile, or he holds your hand or he does things for you, it's the most beautiful feeling in the world where, also in those 40 days, I gained this passion in my soul of, whatever I was doing, let's go harder and let's go bigger. And there's this bold fire in my heart where now I'm willing to risk it double because, yes, I could lose something, but I also could go really freaking great.

Speaker 2: 16:28

And there's this little boy watching me doing these things, living this life. So this fear that I experienced was beautiful and I think it. I think what I went through was this fear of experiencing it and it allowed me to be closer to him and really, really be present with him.

Speaker 2: 16:45

But, as soon as you like everything's, your hormones are going back to normal. There's also this immense fire in your soul where you want to show up bolder and and almost like boundaries come a lot because I told my husband I'm not willing to share my energy with anyone. My calls that I used to have all the time. I'm not willing to do that. I'm very strategic on where my energy goes. Who's in my circle who comes around? Who's? It sounds bad but like who's wasting my time, because every time I say, every time I say yes to you, I'm saying no to him.

Speaker 2: 17:17

And you get very strategic with it and it's it's a beautiful, beautiful thing, but your identity is going to change, yeah, but I think it gets a lot more intentional. It gets a lot more clear on what's actually important in your life Because, again, every time I say yes to you, I'm saying no to him. Well, thank you for coming on the show.

Speaker 1: 17:38

Thank you for saying yes to the show.

Speaker 2: 17:41

Yeah, but it's the most beautiful thing for anyone who's thinking about doing it, val, just the way I'm willing to show up in the world, the risks that I'm willing to take, because, yes, it could go scary, but what if it goes amazing? Yeah, not only am I going to be there, has it shifted your legacy?

Speaker 1: 17:59

Is that the fire is like oh, I really want to leave a legacy because of this little human? Or is it also that you've dropped a lot of the fear because you're like holy crap, I was able to have a baby, so I could do anything Is?

Speaker 2: 18:16

it one or both of those or what do you think that is? I think it's the feeling of you hear a lot in elementary school like you can be anything you want in the world, you can do anything. But those people telling us those things they didn't do their more Like how? Like you always tell me I could be anything, I could shoot for the stars or whatever, but you didn't do it. And I think at one point there's something that I read in my first trimester that said eventually your kids are going to figure out who you are and what are you going to do when they figured you out and what are you going to do when they figure you out. And I never like thought about that with my own parents. But that's why a lot of us we grow up and we stop talking to our parents, or we grow up and you know we learn to like not be around people because we figure out who they are. As a little kid it didn't matter.

Speaker 2: 19:04

But when I read that and in the transition that I was going through, I realized I want my son to say, hey, my mom really went through what she wanted to do figure out what she wanted, or what she wanted to create who she wanted to become. I want him to look at my husband and say he risks it all, but he, like never backed down from following his dreams. And I want him to have that same fire and say I never know what life's going to hand me, but guess what? I'll figure it out or we'll move forward. Like I want him to have that fire in him. But also when he figures out who his mom is, I want him to like. I want him to. I don't want to say love that, but I want him to not be ashamed of that love that, but I want him to not be ashamed of that.

Speaker 1: 19:52

Wow, this is so. This is so powerful and I feel like it's just touching on so many different nerves about this identity piece, right, like who you are in your identity, and it just, I guess it also makes me think about women and the work that you do with the women. Like you mentioned, how we get told this idea of you can do anything you want, but then those people didn't go for it. So, in your experience working with your clients and all these women you talk to, why don't we go for it? Why don't we explore it? Why don't we try it? What is it that holds us back?

Speaker 2: 20:30

I think one our brain is very happy with comfort and it's comfortable when it knows what it's doing. And no one wants to be the dumb one, the one that looks silly, the one that like I'm an idiot for doing this, like we don't want to be the person that looks that way. So one it's like the comfort. Why would I ruin what I have, even with teaching? Why would I ruin a secure paycheck? Why would I ruin? I have summers off, winters off, every single weekend off of the year. Why would I ruin this to go for something that I don't even know?

Speaker 2: 21:06

And I think the fear of the unknown is really really big, especially as we're growing up. We're always taught to be careful. You don't know what's in there, Be careful with that. You don't know what's going to happen. And again, going back to my baby, somebody asked me the other day what is the biggest thing that you want to teach your son? It's like I want him to teach. I want him to teach to explore, explore the unknown, because in that unknown there's also so much possibility of what could actually go right, what could actually happen. So I think it's a big fear of the unknown and we also like to. Again. If I make money, I can be perceived as somebody who we. I was talking to somebody else the other day and I was like it's funny, because when you think about rich women, you think of them as being bitches. Oh, she's a bitch, or oh, or a widow. She's separated. No one really likes her. So we've attained, we've have like a.

Speaker 2: 21:53

If you want more, you're not a good person because you're greedy and there's so many things that even with my client she works for a company where she, she, she sells a specific product for a company and she said I don't like sharing it with my family because I realized like I don't want them to think I'm a bitch. And I was like what, and we were talking about it, and it goes back to you wanting more means you're ungrateful. You wanting more means you're like take me for granted what you actually have.

Speaker 1: 22:24

Yeah, yeah. We have all these stories I really resonate with that too Like just wanting to be seen or heard or talk about something that means something to you. Sometimes people attach certain things to that. So what would you tactically tell somebody if they're like okay, yes, I am so lit up by this podcast. I want to take action, I want to do something, but I don't even know where to begin. I'm so scared I'm shaking my boots. Like what do you tell that woman?

Speaker 2: 22:51

So I always tell people, when you know you want to do something, think of the five people that you admire the most. And they literally make a diagram like this person, put their name and then think what do you admire from that? Because usually when we admire somebody, there's something that we love about that person, whether it's their lifestyle, their bodies, their house, their dogs, whatever it is. Put it in there and then in the middle make a circle of like this is the actually, this is the more that I'm actually craving. And it's something as simple as, like a dog.

Speaker 2: 23:20

I used to go to my friend's house and she used to have this dog and I used to love her dog and everything. And I realized, like the only reason I have a dog is because my friend had a dog and it was a beautiful dog and she was so caring and nurturing and I literally got a female dog because of her. So a lot of the times, like the things that we want, the more that we want, it's attainable for us. We can actually do it, but we need to get really clear of what does my more actually look like. So when I say, pick the five people that you admire, that you love or that you would want to switch some sort of life with not maybe your whole life, but maybe parts of it. Think about them, describe everything you love and then in the middle make a circle of all the things that you have in common or that, not you haven't come in, but that you actually desire, because that in that circle you'll find your more.

Speaker 1: 24:08

That's really really good. I I'm curious now from that exercise like who are some of those folks for you, who are some of those women for you?

Speaker 2: 24:18

Yeah, so I have a coach. Her name is Amber and when I was doing this exercise in 2022, I literally sat down and did it. I was like there's something about Amber that I desire, so I wrote Amber down. I have a friend who has an amazing body, always works. I wrote her down. I wrote my other friend who has he's a guy, but he has like a bigger community. So, anyways, I wrote these five people down.

Speaker 2: 24:39

When I looked at that circle from my friend who, I'm telling you she's like this girl loves working out, like it's her whole holy grail I realized that from her, what I was craving was being able to cook in a way where I felt happy with what I was cooking, because I grew up Mexican. Everything's oil, everything's deep fried, everything's sour cream and cheese, every single dish. That's my comfort food, that's what I know how to cook. And also, now, looking back at it, I was telling my husband dang, being Mexican, we don't have very much money, so four ingredients can make you like 60 meals. They're all bad meals, but they make you meals and you eat happily. And it's like 20, it beats 20 people.

Speaker 2: 25:21

And what I was looking at her is I just I love the way she loved food, yeah, and she loved her, her macros and her like she just loved them and she gets so excited about it. So I realized that's what I was craving from her. Then, from from from the guy, I realized like he has a massive community of people that he calls his friends and his family. He's like this is my framily. That's what I wanted. I want a framily friends and family like that I made With Amber. I realized that I wanted her lifestyle. I wanted to be able to be present with kids that I didn't even have yet. But I wanted her lifestyle. And when I wrote down this, fast forward to now where we're at, it's so interesting because a lot of that stuff that I wrote down, it's part of my life now.

Speaker 1: 26:07

Isn't that beautiful. You get to connect those dots so amazing. I I'm curious. You know, the lifestyle piece is something that I've witnessed you create for yourself, and with such ease and flow, and one of your common sayings is life gets to be this good. So can you talk about that too, of like, what have you done in order to craft that kind of lifestyle? What have you implemented to allow that to happen? Because so many of us like fill our schedules and we're so busy all the time and we think how on earth can life get to be that good when I've got a to-do list that's a million miles long?

Speaker 2: 26:43

Yeah, so I designed this life to what actually like, a few years down the road, four years, three years down the road, what do I want my life to look like? And I knew Fridays I didn't want to work. Fridays are my family days, my travel days, whatever. Monday's my recovering day. So I usually don't take any calls, I don't do anything. So I was like, okay, that means Mondays and Fridays, I have to have them off. So I designed that was my schedule. I was only working Tuesday, wednesdays and Thursdays. Then I was like I got pregnant eventually. So I was like, okay, all my appointments are always on Wednesdays. So then I started taking Wednesdays off. So now, now, in the current season that I'm at, I work Tuesdays and Thursdays. That's it, wow, and and I everything gets squeezed into those two days. Those are my busy days.

Speaker 2: 27:30

But and even before this was possible, I had a backtrack to like 2020 crystal, where we are wired for connection, but trauma programs, as for protection Meaning, we worry about everything going wrong. We worry about all things happening Like what if I this, this, this and this being in the school? Being a teacher in the school industry, I was also realizing that I was complaining a lot this or this or time schedules or this or state tests, like there's always something to complain about. In 2020, when I left teaching, there was this big task that I did where I wanted to become grateful and practice gratitude on the daily. So, since 2020, november November 2019, to be specific I learned this from somebody else. They said, when you wake up in the morning, practice gratitude.

Speaker 2: 28:21

What I realized was happening is I was saying good morning, I do it very differently. So I wake up and I said good morning Crystal. I acknowledge myself first Good morning God. Good morning Crystal. Good morning God. I love you. And then I say, today I have no idea what you have planned for me, but I know I'm willing to rock it. And then I'll say today I'm grateful for and I specifically pick three things that I'm grateful for, and then I explain why, because otherwise you just become a gratitude robot. I'm grateful for my house, I'm grateful for my dog, I'm grateful for my baby Okay, let me get up. But are you really grateful for them or are you just because you want to say something? So I challenged myself a step deeper and I said okay, I'm grateful for my son because I prayed for him for so long and he's finally here with me and I just adore him. I'm grateful for my dog because even on the days where I feel at my worst, she can come and cuddle me and be with me and raise my energy. Like I challenged myself why I started doing that since November 2019 up until this day, every single day, and that was the key thing in number one.

Speaker 2: 29:26

Crafting this lifestyle is practicing gratitude and really learning to be grateful. Yeah, because you can wake up and spill a glass of milk and that moment that you spilled the glass of milk turns into an entire day of like my day sucks. It's been ruined. No, it wasn't, it was five minutes. Are you really like taking those five minutes and like stretching them the entire day to justify your bad day?

Speaker 2: 29:50

Because a lot of the things for us, they're not, and what I also have challenged myself to do now is every single thing that happens, it's happening for me exactly as it needs to happen. Example you're driving and your tire pops. Maybe it stopped me from having the accident that was down the street. You're going there. And example these last seven days I was on vacation, the weather got really gloomy and we really, really wanted to be there. And as we ended up somewhere else we go on Instagram and we realized the hotel that we were at across the street there was like a big thing that happened with like the ocean and stuff like that I was like if we would have been there, like that literally would have been us. So the weather going bad literally protected us from something happening. And it sounds so aggressive to say, but I'm always, always challenging my brain. If something's not working for me, what is it protecting me from? Because it's never rejection, it's always divine redirection and it's always God's protection.

Speaker 1: 30:46

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 30:47

Always. I get so aggressive with this and I think about it all the time. What is it protecting me from, what is it saving me from? And what I've realized now with this. You can want the lifestyle, but if you don't have the background or the gratitude or the mindset to actually carry you through the lifestyle, then the lifestyle is not going to be possible for you because you're going to ruin it even when you get to the lifestyle.

Speaker 1: 31:07

Yeah, no, I'm a big believer in gratitude too.

Speaker 1: 31:10

I'm glad you spoke about it because it's helped me change my life in so many different ways and it's helped with manifestation, Like it really is kind of the bedrock to all of it.

Speaker 1: 31:19

And I do write, I write down the three things and I always tell people to get specific same thing because you want to. You know, tap into your subconscious and really remember the specific thing. But the other thing that I think I wanted to add to that is that sometimes also there's this fallacy of like, oh well, just be grateful for where you are, and that stops you from actually wanting more. And I think we can hold both. I think we can hold space for being so grateful and in fact, I think it helps us rocket ship into the next thing if we're really grateful here and we also want more for ourselves. But what I think a lot of people do is they wait until the thing wherever they are, sucks enough and is so horrible that now they have to change their life in order to do something different. So I'm curious if you've ever experienced that, or what is your take on all of that, and why do we wait until it sucks in order to get to the next thing.

Speaker 2: 32:14

It's so funny and I might get a little like religious or however you guys wanna take it, but you guys could literally change this for something that you believe in. So there's a story that I had read where fast forward, like the short version is this there's this man drowning in the ocean and I don't know if you've heard this story about, but there's this man drowning in the ocean and people come and try to save this guy and he goes no, no, leave me. Like God's going to save me. And there's this like family that passes by with this beautiful bow. It says, hey, come on, like, get on my boat. No, no, no, god's going to save me. There's like another guy who passed with a paddleboard or something in his drowning says come on, get on my paddleboard. No, no, no, god's going to save me. So two, two more people pass. The guy ends up dying. He goes to heaven and he goes what's up, god? Like you were supposed to save me, because I did, I sent you four different people and you still drowned.

Speaker 2: 33:02

So I always like to think of that when it comes to our more, because we wait for a sign, we wait for this thing to be ready. You wanting. It is your sign that you're ready, like you having that feeling in your heart that you want to quit your job or that you want to leave the relationship, or that you want to experience. You know what it would look like having a life with baby. Whatever it is like you wanting, it is the sign from God, is the clear green light saying God, saying go for it, I got your back, I'm going to do whatever I can on my end to support you, but yet we want him to come down physically and hold her hand and walk with us. That is never going to happen and then we're going to die and we're going to be like what's up? I was giving you all the cues for you to go through it and you still weren't doing it. And and that like that story like really really reminds me of like this is why you need to follow her more.

Speaker 2: 33:50

But about a year and a half ago, my husband was telling me because he's not into religion at all and he's like it's so funny because you know the bible, you have your sacraments and he doesn't he's like but what do you like? Isn't it greedy? Or in the bible doesn't say you should want more and I was like, yeah, but in the bible it also doesn't say that being humble means being broke. So many people think, oh, I'm humble, let me stay down here. Because I'm humble, that's fine, I can be humble up here, yeah, like we attest to not wanting to do our more because we're not ready or we're waiting for the thing. It doesn't say like, being humble is not tied to being broke. Right, I can be a good human. And here's like the newsflash that I saw in my husband. I was like newsflash. But whether you're a bad human. And here's like the newsflash that I saw my husband, I was like newsflash. But whether you're a bad human, doing your more is just going to help you do more bad if you're a good human.

Speaker 2: 34:41

Doing your more is going to help you amplify. Like we can't change humanity, we can only amplify who they are when we get to amplify who we are by doing our more.

Speaker 1: 34:52

Well, you've just amplified the whole damn audience, so I feel like this whole episode has just been completely full of, I don't know, all of the life lessons that we needed today as far as, like, how do we start to take action on those things that are inside of ourselves? Um, and I just, I just love you for all the things that you shared. Um, so I know you have some things that are coming up next and, as we start to wrap up, I just would love to have you share, like, how can people you know get in touch with you? They're going to be so excited to listen to this and just hear from you. They're going to want to reach out. So where can they find you?

Speaker 2: 35:30

The number one place you'll find me is Instagram. I share my life there. I share daily dance, music, advice, downloads, all the things is Instagram. My second place is going to be my podcast. We're currently going through a rebrand launch that will happen towards the end of April, so that'll be. That'll come out again, but we have no episodes called the she's Made For More, and again we're just embodying women who are going through their more sometimes is just pump up chats. It's just a little bit of everything. And then, um, the other way that people can just join our community is coming to our events. We do a lot of in-person events, we do retreats, we do events. We have, um, a big event happening in October that I haven't fully announced all the details for.

Speaker 1: 36:12

Oh, that's exciting we get to hear about that. You also have a brunch coming up, I'm pretty sure, so that's exciting, we get to hear about that. You also have a brunch coming up, I'm pretty sure, so that's awesome.

Speaker 2: 36:20

We have a brunch coming up May 18th, and it's again just finding your people, plugging into your people that are going to help you, activate you, surround you, cheer for you. When life gets hard, cause it does.

Speaker 1: 36:32

Yes, and for those of you listening, Crystal is like the queen of events. I mean, all of her events are just amazing and so impactful and people like leave crying and their lives get changed and it's just amazing. So you definitely want to be there. Who in your mind is a woman on top when you think of that name? Who is that to you?

Speaker 2: 36:54

I think right now, the woman that I'm admiring a lot is Amber. I just love the way she loves life. I love the way she's a mom, and I was talking to her the other day and she said I'm not interested in booking stages. She's like I'm interested in being the best version I can be for my kiddos. And she said I'm making a lot of money in the process so that I can have these sacred be for my kiddos and that's and she's like and making. She said I'm making a lot of money in the process so that I can have these sacred moments with my kiddos because, like it or not, she's like, everything costs money. And I think she was like a big whoa. She's right. It doesn't whether you're making, whether you're chasing wealth, whether you're chasing money, whether you're chasing impact, whatever you are, it's calling you for chasing money, whether you're chasing impact, whatever you are calling you for a reason. But it's supposed to help you launch that next chapter that's already designed for you so bold and refreshing to hear that too right.

Speaker 1: 37:49

Like here's a woman who wants to be a mom and she wants to make amazing money. That's great, Okay. Final question is I ask every guest on the show to leave like one piece of advice it could be a quote, it could be anything coming to you, um, for whoever I interviewed next and you're not going to know who I interview next so the quote that was left for you from the last woman that I interviewed. She said I want you to know that you are spectacular and that you are the brightest light that I've ever seen in the whole fricking world, and that you just deserve to know that you are spectacular and that you are the brightest light that I've ever seen in the whole fricking world, and that you just deserve to know that. So I love that.

Speaker 1: 38:22

These little nuggets and these quotes or these like little bits of wisdom are just kind of falling on the right people for whatever reason they need to fall. They, I just believe in divine timing. So what, what quote or what little piece of wisdom or inspiration would you like to leave? I?

Speaker 2: 38:41

think I want her to know that she is her ancestors wildest dreams and I think her more came to her because she is the one that's meant to disrupt her entire lineage. She's the one that all her ancestors are betting on and saying it's this one. You might feel, it might feel heavy, it might feel like can I really do it, but know that you're being so guided and every single person's putting like what they can on this person, Cause her more is meant to change um like generations, long after she's gone.

Speaker 1: 39:12

Oh my gosh, I just got chills at my back. So that's always a sign I feel like I'm getting chills very often, the amount of interviews I've been doing, and it's amazing that one is deep and that one also intimidates me a little bit just hearing it. But I love it. I love it so much, oh my goodness. Well, thank you for being here. I wish we had hours and hours that we could just hang out, but I just have to say, like I, every time I talk to you and I'm in spaces with you, I always feel a shift inside of myself, and I know that the women listening to this and anyone else listening to this will feel that too, just from from all the things that you share, and not just from what you share, but like who you are, and I think that's the most important part to me.

Speaker 2: 39:53

So thank you for being here and I think that's the most important part to me. So thank you for being here. Well, thank you for having me, and again it's just there's like I think we just need to listen to the whispers of our soul and you know you're always being guided everywhere you go. It's on purpose, like it's always unfolding for us. So I'm so glad that I got to be here and hopefully it resonates with somebody and they can do whatever they're meant to do.

Speaker 1: 40:22

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